As the title of this post suggests I decided to enforce a spending no buying clothes/shoes ban. I can say that I successfully achieved my challenge.
- Ok, we bought and moved into our new flat. It is more or less the same size as our old flat but a different layout (ie a kitchen that we can actually cook and be more than 2 people in and bathrooms that are more than just a cupboard) meaning that we have to be super careful with how we fill this space. It was also in the move whilst doing the mammoth tidy and sort out of the century/millennium that I began to realise I HAD TOO MUCH SHIT! I mean clothes have always been such a joy to me (more on that later). SO something had to give. A flea market was done and I am selling more stuff over on my depop account.
- I have a buying/spending problem. I buy stuff on a whim without giving it much thought. Its only after I get the items (I am an online shopper/binger) delivered and decide after a lot of trying to ignore it when I check my bank balance and I want to cry. I like food and eating and also having a house over my head and electricity and all those fun things. A new pair of shoes won’t pay those, although they might look nice.
- I am VERY compulsive. I can do a lot of damage on one of my shopping binges. I click and buy. I often get tempted by bloggers and instagram which brings me onto my next point.
- I felt disgusting constantly buying into the instagram / bloggers world. ALways having to have something new and on trend and be the first to get stuff. There is a massive pressure on us all to constantly be current and have the new it bag or trend.
- I wanted to start thinking about the clothes I actually wanted and my personal style and who I am as a person. I wanted to think about how clothes make me feel and how we can play dress up and be a character one day and another one the next. How clothes can change your mood and make you feel better (or worse) and how it is an expression of who you are. Its magical and I LOVE playing dress up!
- Buying stuff out of boredom. When I worked in an office I was constantly getting deliveries of STUFF. Just lots of stuff. I was bored and unhappy and new clothes/shoes made me have that buzz for all of 5 minutes until I had to get the next best new thing.
So what have I learnt?
Well a lot actually. I feel like I know what I like more. I feel less dictated to in terms of trends and stuff like that (you will NEVER find me in a fluffy pair of sliders for example). I am growing older (32 eek!) and I feel like I know what clothes make me feel like. I know what things I want and what is missing. I know that I have a personal sentimental attachment to clothes which means I unwillingly hoard them. I also am attached to them because of the amount I have spent makes me feel guilty to just get rid of them (I know silly right?).
As I said above I LOVE playing dress up. But I also love sensible well made pieces. I like to know that my items are more or less sustainable or that they are going to last me for years to come. I think this has taught me to make wiser purchases and not to be so bloody impulsive.
At the start of August I purchased a few things. I broke my spending ban. Whilst originally I felt shit for spending money when I said I was going to last the year I think its ok. I made wise, thoughtful purchases and I didn’t really re purchase things in different versions. I think the new additions work well. However what I have decided is that this is only going to be a bi annual thing. Here in Barcelona we basically have two seasons; a hot summer and a mildish winter. There for there are a lot of clothes that I can use for the transition period. I am happy to wait and see what I really need. To weed out what I don’t wear or need. Or what simply doesn’t fit anymore. I am also eager to see where I have gaps. I would like to do an almost capsule wardrobe, but keeping it fairly loose and for me to keep treasured items (like my vintage dresses and handbags!). I also will operate a strict in and out policy. No more binging on random stuff. If I buy anything I have to LOVE it.
My aims are to:
- 1. Streamline my wardrobe and the amount of items in it.
- 2. Buy only quality stuff that is timeless and will last me for years to come.
- 3. Try and make as much as possible myself (I LOVE to sew and also I like unique to me items).
- 4. Have a bi-annual clear out of clothes that are unworn or just unsuitable.
- 5. Learn how to let go of sentimental items.
- 6. Only buy clothes bi-annually and giving myself a budget.
- 7. Try to buy as sustainable or from small indie brands as much as possible.
- 8. Stop buying from HUGE chains (btw I stopped buying from Zara, h&m, Pull & bear completely!).
- 9. Buy stuff that is ME and not trend led. Just because so and so blogger has it doesn’t mean I need it.
- 10. Make sure I wear most of my wardrobe and have fun with the stuff I already have and not just wear the same thing everyday.
SO thats it. Thats my clothes buying/not buying manifesto. I am quite proud of myself for lasting 6 months and have learnt alot. Next step….beauty (scream face emoji!).